When my children were small, I introduced a chore chart. Foolishly, I thought it would lighten my workload. I thought by sharing household tasks with my four children, I wouldn't be so exhausted or stressed out by day's end. I was sorely mistaken.
You see, the purpose of the chore chart is NOT to make life easier or expedite the completion of daily tasks. It is actually easier to wash the dishes myself rather than repeatedly remind my daughter to do her chores. The purpose is not to reduce stress. Seriously, have you ever watched a five-year-old fold clothes? It takes FOREVER. The purpose of the chore chart is to teach teamwork, build confidence, and set expectations.
So, how does it work? I list age-appropriate tasks and assign children to each task. Some chores like dusting, polishing and taking out the trash rotate on a weekly basis. Other jobs are assigned to all of the children, such as putting the laundry away. The chore chart has gimme tasks such as, brushing teeth and drinking water because I don't want every task to be hard.
It is my hope that the time invested in teaching my children how to maintain a home and work as a team will pay off.
The Plus Mommy Podcast launched in May of 2018. It is hosted by Jen McClellan, the founder of PlusSizeBirth.com
In this episode, Jen interviews a midwife who beautifully describes the midwifery model of care and how it differs from the obstetric model of care. She clears up common misconceptions like midwives only attend home births, that they are only for pregnancy, and they aren't for people choosing an epidural. Please enjoy this episode of the Plus Mommy Podcast!
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I stumbled upon this book one day while visiting the Charlotte Mecklenburg Library. The cute cornrows and afro puffs immediately caught my eye. What a great find! Ruby Finds a Worry by Tom Percival is about a little girl who is weighed down by big feelings that she does not understand. She is unable to ignore them or shake them off no matter how hard she tries. Worry and anxiety follow her to school and prevent her from enjoying the activities that she used to enjoy. Ruby discovers that other people also feel these feelings and it helps to talk about them. This is a great tool to begin a discussion with a young one who may be struggling with similar feelings.
When my children were little, I often encouraged them to play with their food! We would make faces, animals, and beautiful landscapes. Then we would make up stories while we consumed them. It was a fun way for them to try new foods, become familiar with different tastes and textures, and develop story-telling skills. There are lessons in everything!
Kira Kimble is a doula trainer, certified doula and doula mentor. She is the owner of MINE-R-T Doula Company in Charlotte, NC